Building Connections: Why Social Experiences Matter

One of the best ways to develop social confidence is through a shared activity. Sport can be particularly powerful because children have a common goal and clear structure. Whether it is football, swimming, dance, martial arts, basketball or another activity, children naturally practise taking turns, communicating, following rules, working as a team and managing both success and disappointment.

And they certainly don't have to be the best player! Being part of a team, remembering to encourage someone else or returning after a difficult session can be successes in themselves.

Living in Beijing can make social opportunities look a little different. With apartment living, busy city life, weather and less access to spontaneous outdoor space, children may not always have the same opportunities to simply head outside and find other children to play with. Clubs, sports, playdates and shared family activities can therefore provide wonderful opportunities for connection.

At school, we see the benefits of these experiences every day. A child who becomes more confident joining a game is also practising how to join a group in the classroom. A child who learns to cope with losing is building their ability to manage disappointment. A child who negotiates the rules of a playground game is developing communication and flexibility.

Social skills are learnt through practice. By giving children regular, positive opportunities to connect, cooperate and sometimes work through a little difficulty, we help them build the confidence and resilience to feel that they belong.