As a school counsellor, I often hear questions like: “How can I help my child build resilience?” or “What can I do to support my child when they feel lost or unmotivated?”
One approach that continues to inspire both my work and my parenting conversations is Logotherapy, an existential approach developed by Viktor Frankl.
Frankl, a Holocaust survivor, believed that what drives us most as human beings is not success or happiness, but meaning. This applies to children too. Even at a young age, children are searching for direction, purpose, and identity. So how can we support this journey at home?
Children are constantly exploring: Who am I? What am I good at? Where do I belong? Logotherapy reminds us that each person is unique and irreplaceable. As parents, we can nurture this by being curious about our child’s inner world. Celebrate not just achievements but discoveries.
Frankl said that we are free to choose our response in any situation, and that this freedom comes with responsibility. As parents, we can reinforce this mindset by saying things like:
Not all meaning comes from big achievements. It is often found in the small, everyday interactions such as a warm hug, a shared joke, or a kind act.
When children face challenges, whether it is anxiety, friendship struggles, or academic stress, they often ask: “Why is this happening to me?.” Logotherapy helps us reframe this into: “Given that this is happening, how can I grow through it?”
Raising children with meaning doesn’t require perfect parenting. It is about showing up, listening deeply, and reminding them, gently and often, that they matter, and that their choices can shape who they become.
