9 Effective Ways to Build Your Child’s Confidence
Need some tips and strategies to bring your child out of their shell? Here are nine effective ways to get started.
1. Win, lose or draw - encourage
When responding to your child's activities, the result should always be secondary. Whether your child manages to achieve their goal or comes up short, the primary focus is the journey they undertake to get there.
Your child should never be discouraged from trying. If they show dedication and enthusiasm as they pursue their goals, that should be enough to warrant encouragement from you. Children aren’t as well equipped to deal with criticism as adults. If they are met with negativity from you, their confidence will drop, and they will be less able to perform the task at hand and develop their skills.
No matter the result, always encourage your child to try again.
2. Encourage practice
No one, from the greatest athletes in the world to the finest actors and musicians, gets to where they are without practice. Competence breeds confidence, so encourage your child to keep practicing whatever it is they are interested in.
As a parent, you need to balance this with not being too pushy. Putting too much pressure on your child will quickly reduce their enthusiasm for their hobbies or studies. If practice breeds competence, then a lack of practice will lead to a drop in confidence.
3. Don’t hand hold
As a parent, it’s only natural that you’ll want to help your child excel as much as you can. However, if you take this notion too far you’ll only serve to hamper your child’s progress in that activity.
Children need to be left to their own devices to work out problems and create solutions. Knowing that they were responsible for solving a problem is what truly builds confidence. Nudge your child in the right direction, offer them some support when they struggle, but don’t hold their hand through every problem.
As an extension of this, try to foster independence and a sense of adventure in your child. Children who are given the room to try new things are more likely to build self-confidence.