Fact is that we have had a lot to deal with lately: the fear of Covid-19, transitioning to home, combining work and virtual learning, the stress of transitioning back to school, a summer full of insecurity coming up while trying to meet the usual parental expectations. Raising children is already exhausting in normal circumstances, whether you have one child or ten, and whether they are babies, toddlers or teenagers, in a socially comparative culture with expectations we cannot easily meet.
We try to keep up with other parents at school, neighbors and friends, in real life and online. When we cannot meet these expectations, we feel guilty and frustrated and parenting becomes a burden. This is nothing to be ashamed of, it happens to all of us at some point in time and is therefore something to acknowledge, embrace and work on. Remember, you must secure your own oxygen mask before assisting your children. Caring for yourself will help you care for your children.
Here are some tips and tricks to help you relax and reconnect with the energy necessary to face the challenges of parenthood:
- Be a “good enough” parent
What children need most is a caring parent, who is available when they need them and not a Superhero Mum or Dad worthy of Facebook. Remind yourself that you are doing a great job while not being flawless. Isn’t that what we tell our children: you don’t have to be perfect; you will learn from making mistakes and trying your best. Well, the same goes for us. We learn on the job by trying the best we can.